I hope you all had a wonderful weekend. I’m excited to meet your parents and show them the good work you all have done this term already. In this week’s post, I will be asking you to read an article about teenagers and their attitudes (not implying that you have attitude). Have you ever wondered why you are constantly getting into trouble with your parents? Ever feel like they don’t understand where you are coming from? Well, let’s hear what you have to say. To read the article, please click here: READ ME
- Which part of the article do you relate with the most? Please insert the quote and explain why you feel a connection to the quote.
- Why do you think that sometimes adults misinterpret what you are saying, and then when you get frustrated they mistaken that for “attitude?”
- What can adults do differently to better understand where you guys/girls are coming from?
I look forward to your answers. Remember, this week you need to respond to at least one classmate’s post. To do that, you need to hit reply on their comment to start the conversation. Have a great week of learning!
Having a “bad attitude” is something that is almost all the time attributed to teenagers. There are a lot of times when people perceive teenagers as having attitude, and most of the time there is just miscommunication or misinterpretation. Having more patience and understanding for the changes that are taking place in a teen’s body and mind would probably be very helpful. I think that communication in a calm, respectful manner from both teenagers and parents is the solution.
1) Pay attention to the good times.
this has a good connection with ME is because if you don’t pay attention to the good times you will not get the chance again, and when you wanna go back and live the moment again, oh shoot, you didn’t pay enough to the good times know you don’t remember enough to care
2) Because they expect you to say something bad or give attitude because of your brothers or you said it once.
3) Understand more and not jump to conclusion while teens/tween’s are saying.
1. I can’t really relate to any of the posts at all. But I can say that I’ve heard lots of parents talking about how worried they are about their teen son/daughter.
2. I think parents sometimes misunderstand teens and the teens get all mad and all that chaos is because when their son/daughter is talking, the adults either just don’t feel like listening, or they are thinking of something else. Then the teen gets all mad and all that, because they just said all of that and nobody was listening. It probably made them feel really, really frustrated just because they have just successfully wasted lots of their time. Then the parents get all vexed and they really don’t like your attitude. They then start to say something like, “I really don’t like that attitude you’re showing me!” After that, everything just gets sort of heated and the dinner table turned from a nice family dinner to a huge brawl between the two parents and their son or daughter.
3. I think they could just read when they are really angry or worried. Or they can just go for a walk or something to get their minds off that situation for a few minutes or so. Basically, what I’m trying to imply here is, if you want to work something out, just talk it out. Talking it out in my point of view is probably the best way to figure out where we are coming from. But when things start to get a little shaky, I think we should just sort of take a breath, and just relax for a moment or so. I also think when we take our minds off something for a while, sometimes when I don’t feel so comfortable, I read a book, or sometimes just try to get my mind off it for whatever is making me feel that way.
I agree with you partially, but I think reading when your angry is not really suitable if I do say so myself. If I were angry, taking a deep breath or going for a walk is what I would do. I think some people (including me) would be too angry and unfocused to read and it also depends on the level of anger the person is portraying. I agree about the teen and the parent having a disagreement at the dinner table and I think one way that can be fixed is by having dinner separate times.
I relate most to the part where the girl says her parents give her little to no freedom. I feel this way because I have few choices regarding clothes, homework, and hanging out with friends, but I mostly feel this way because I was told I had to move schools a day before I actually did, making me feel abandoned and left behind.
I think parents should listen to teens sometimes so they understand what we’re going through. They don’t know their children as well as they think they do, so what they mistake for attitude is actually all resentment and frustration.
Parents should spend more time with children, as to understand everything that’s happening to them. They should help work out struggles with valid solutions that teens actually accept, so that they’re not forced to make the other person apologize if they don’t want to. Parents should also accept that some teens want to make their own decisions
1. I think the part about mild punishments and freedom is what I relate to the most. My parents are always giving me bad punishments and to be honest it sometimes makes me dislike more than getting disciplined. This article clearly reads my view on things (FINALLY!). Freedom is also another problem I have with my family, for example I can’t do some things like go to a birthday party, do after school activities, etc. because I always have to take care of my brother and sister and I get so frustrated about it, it puts me in a bad mood the rest of the day or the week and my parents mistake it for bad behaviour.
2.I think parents that mistake our bad moods for “attitude” sometimes don’t understand our feelings, and I think one way it can be fixed is by sitting down and having talk and relating to each other. I don’t blame the adults for mistaking our moods for bad attitude because sometimes it is a bad attitude and sometimes we are rude to our parents and give them bad attitude because we’re in a bad mood.
3. I think some ways that parents can understand their teens better is by sitting down and having a talk with them, asking how their day went more often and about their up’s and down’s, rewarding them more for their good behaviour rather than their bad and giving them more freedom (but not too much.)
1) Pay attention to the good times.
this has a good connection with ME is because if you don’t pay attention to the good times you will not get the chance again, and when you wanna go back and live the moment again, oh shoot, you didn’t pay enough to the good times know you don’t remember enough to care
2) Because they expect you to say something bad or give attitude because of your brothers or you said it once.
3) Understand more and not jump to conclusion while teens/tween’s are saying.
I can most relate to the part where it says pay attention to the good times because I feel my mom thinks I’m always angry. I’ll be the first one to admit I’m not always the happiest person but I feel the reason it sticks out when someone is angry or has an attitudes and it has to do with the stereotype that kids/teens are always mad. 80% of the time I’m happy or content or just fine, when I play Xbox with friends or go outside or anything I do I’m usually fine. But this isnt just with me or just with pre-teens/teens it sticks out when someone is mad, that’s human nature. When you can tell someone is not happy the people around will notice. So when you’re content or fine not really talking to anyone they assume you are angry or have an attitude of some sort. So for adults to understand better I think they should do exactly that, pay attention to the times when the person is happy or fine. And other times I may be happy but I don’t feel the need to show the whole world and have a huge smile about it. So in conclusion I feel that to understand the simple part of it is just to pay more attention to the persons feelings and they’ll see that it’s not always anger or something like that.
1.I think the mild punishments is what I relate to the most. When my parents give me a bad punishment, its usually like no technology for a week. I don’t mind, but one time I had to work on a project and I had to use my computer to type things out but my mom wouldn’t allow it and I got in a bad mood and my mom thought I was having bad behaviour.
2. I think that parents who mistaken us for having bad attitude because they may not know how you are feeling. So, I don’t blame parents, and we should talk with our parents about whats going on. Like if you just didn’t get enough sleep.
3. I think a good way for parents to better understand how their child is feeling by sitting down at the dinner table and ask each other how they are feeling before having dinner.
So I’m not a teen yet, but even if I was I still don’t think that I would be able to relate to any of that article at all.
The reason I think people misunderstand where teens are
coming from is simply because either the tone in which the teen is talking in or the fact that older people always know what is best for you. I think this is why some teens think that their
parents are to controlling or don’t give them enough freedom. I’m not saying that older people (like your parents) never know what’s best for you but when they grew up they probably didn’t have phones or any of the social media that we have now.
I think the best way for parents to see where the teen is coming from is to sit them down and just talk to them. That way youll be able to state both of your feelings and then mabey you and your parents might be able to sort things out or hopefully even come up with a compromise which both of you are content or happy with.
1. I think that I relate to mild punishments most because I always stay on the technology longer then I am supposed to. Another thing that I relate to is that I feel like I am always very grumpy, sluggish, and just not in the mood to do anything at that moment or later in the day.
2. The reason I think that parents misunderstand what we are saying is because maybe we say it in a “bad attitude” to them, but we do not notice and our parents take it the wrong way thinking it is bad attitude. I do not blame parents for taking it as bad attitude. If we do feel in a bad mood just calm down and tell them how you feel.
3. Parents can help understand their child’s problem by having a one on one conversation with them and talking about their issues or whatever they need help with. Like taking some deep breaths and calming down, going for a walk, or eating food should do the trick.
Having a bad attitude sometimes is okay because life is like a roller coaster you can not always control . Like certain changes that you could possibly get upset about . This can end with rude comments for no reason . Teachers can understand listening to the problem and find different ways to solve the problem .
1:I can relate to eating dinner with my family then after going to my room. I relate to this a lot and when I stay with my family my sister always bugs me and treats me like garbage and when I treat her like that I always get in trouble by my Mom. When I stay in my room I feel nice and alone.
2: I think it is because when I am heated in the moment I get all mad and when I try to explain it to my Mom, she thinks I’m giving her attitude.
3: I feel like if my Mom would give me a five minute break and then talk to me nicely and get me to explain whats going instead of yelling at me and grounding me, I wouldn’t be so angry.
I most relate to mistaking for bad attitude. I usually like to spend a lot of time in my room, and have alone time, I usually craft in my room so it isn’t the neatest or tidiest. But my mom is a neat freak and complains that “it gives her migraines” and sometime o get hurt because I really love crafting and its like mom disapproves of my favorite hobby.
2) maybe they miss understand because at this age we are figuring out what responsibility really is and we like different things, need different things, and our parents don’t know so when they are constantly making mistakes, sometimes we get a little frustrated and need some time. But our parent didn’t grow up with all these things we like so they aren’t used to the reactions we get, and don’t know that we aren’t super mad or trying to be rude.
3 I think that maybe something like a weekly talk schedule is good for the situation, to figure out things like what is happening so far. I also think articles like the one we read really help for understanding what it’s like. (I mean I’m modern day because we all will be a teen in our life whether it has happened yet or not.)
1.I feel like the quote that I can relate to the most is “they have tried reason and being more available to talk or help but this has had either no effect or has generated another dose of nastiness “. I think that trying to reason with an angry person is never the best thing to do, especially if he/she is a teenager, it just make the person feel worse and get angrier. 2. When a teenager is trying to say something, and adults don’t understand, they definitely HATE saying things twice. 3. Adults should always keep track on a teenager [especially if it’s a girl. Ladies, you know what I’m talking about,] when they are angry. You should also have a limit on electronics. A really good one is to always keep your ears open. And that is the end of my response. BYE.
I can’t really relate to any of the scenarios but I agree on what Sam said; a lot of the time I’m perfectly fine and happy but my parents think I’m being moody. This is because I like doing stuff by myself on weekends, after a long week, without my siblings bothering me. But I’m not gonna lie, I get so annoyed and frustrated when I spend a good deal of time telling my parents about something and after all that effort they go like, “Huh? What did you say?” or “Could you repeat that?” And I go like “ARGHHHHHH!” I have tried to solve this problem by asking if they are listening to me before I actually start talking. Unfortunately, this only works sometimes because I would have their attention for the first 30 seconds, and then they would get disinterested and start talking about boring stuff. This infuriates me because, hello, I was talking first!! Anyway. So yeah, I don’t really have an attitude (usually) but I can (sort of) tell why my parents think I do. It’s not really their fault because teen years are rollercoaster years.
I can’t really relate to this article. I think the reason why parents are controlling you because they probably think they can’t trust you because your always talking with friends on social media and being irresponsible but I think if the teens show to there parents that they can be responsible, the parents might just give them a bit more freedom.
Adults can probably try giving there teens a bit more freedom for 2 days or just let be until they probably figure it out and then they realize what they had been to much