{"id":334,"date":"2020-12-08T10:56:57","date_gmt":"2020-12-08T18:56:57","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/sd41blogs.ca\/edmonds-strongstart\/?p=334"},"modified":"2020-12-08T10:56:57","modified_gmt":"2020-12-08T18:56:57","slug":"why-talking-is-important","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sd41blogs.ca\/edmonds-strongstart\/2020\/12\/08\/why-talking-is-important\/","title":{"rendered":"Why Talking is Important?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><span data-contrast=\"none\"><span data-contrast=\"none\">Talking and listening to children does lots of important things<\/span><span data-contrast=\"none\">:<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{&quot;201341983&quot;:0,&quot;335559739&quot;:160,&quot;335559740&quot;:240}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<p><span data-contrast=\"none\"><img loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignleft wp-image-337 size-full\" src=\"http:\/\/sd41blogs.ca\/edmonds-strongstart\/files\/2020\/12\/talking-1.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"278\" height=\"181\" \/><\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><span data-contrast=\"none\">It improves your bond with them<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{&quot;134233279&quot;:true,&quot;201341983&quot;:0,&quot;335559739&quot;:160,&quot;335559740&quot;:240}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span data-contrast=\"none\">E<\/span><span data-contrast=\"none\">ncourages them to listen to you<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{&quot;134233279&quot;:true,&quot;201341983&quot;:0,&quot;335559739&quot;:160,&quot;335559740&quot;:240}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span data-contrast=\"none\">It helps them to form relationships\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{&quot;134233279&quot;:true,&quot;201341983&quot;:0,&quot;335559739&quot;:160,&quot;335559740&quot;:240}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span data-contrast=\"none\">It helps them to <\/span><span data-contrast=\"none\">build self-esteem.<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{&quot;134233279&quot;:true,&quot;201341983&quot;:0,&quot;335559739&quot;:160,&quot;335559740&quot;:240}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 120px;\">\n<span data-ccp-props=\"{&quot;201341983&quot;:0,&quot;335559739&quot;:160,&quot;335559740&quot;:259}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b><span data-contrast=\"none\">Did you know?<\/span><\/b><br \/>\n<b><span data-contrast=\"none\">Some children need a lot of encouragement and positive feedback to get talking. Others will be desperate to talk to you when you\u2019re busy doing something else. This might mean stopping what you\u2019re doing and listening.<\/span><\/b><span data-ccp-props=\"{&quot;201341983&quot;:0,&quot;335559739&quot;:160,&quot;335559740&quot;:259}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p aria-level=\"3\"><span data-contrast=\"none\">T<\/span><span data-contrast=\"none\">en<\/span><span data-contrast=\"none\">\u00a0tips for talking and listening<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{&quot;201341983&quot;:0,&quot;335559738&quot;:40,&quot;335559739&quot;:0,&quot;335559740&quot;:259}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li data-leveltext=\"\uf0b7\" data-font=\"Symbol\" data-listid=\"1\" aria-setsize=\"-1\" data-aria-posinset=\"1\" data-aria-level=\"1\"><span data-contrast=\"none\">Set aside time for talking and listening to each other.<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{&quot;134233279&quot;:true,&quot;201341983&quot;:0,&quot;335559739&quot;:160,&quot;335559740&quot;:259}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<li data-leveltext=\"\uf0b7\" data-font=\"Symbol\" data-listid=\"1\" aria-setsize=\"-1\" data-aria-posinset=\"2\" data-aria-level=\"1\"><span data-contrast=\"none\">Listen to your children when they want to talk, have strong feelings or have a problem.<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{&quot;134233279&quot;:true,&quot;201341983&quot;:0,&quot;335559739&quot;:160,&quot;335559740&quot;:259}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<li data-leveltext=\"\uf0b7\" data-font=\"Symbol\" data-listid=\"1\" aria-setsize=\"-1\" data-aria-posinset=\"3\" data-aria-level=\"1\"><b><span data-contrast=\"none\">Be\u00a0<\/span><\/b><b><span data-contrast=\"none\">open<\/span><\/b><b><span data-contrast=\"none\">\u00a0to talking about all kinds of feelings<\/span><\/b><span data-contrast=\"none\">, including anger, joy, frustration, fear and anxiety.\u00a0<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{&quot;134233279&quot;:true,&quot;201341983&quot;:0,&quot;335559739&quot;:160,&quot;335559740&quot;:259}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<li data-leveltext=\"\uf0b7\" data-font=\"Symbol\" data-listid=\"1\" aria-setsize=\"-1\" data-aria-posinset=\"4\" data-aria-level=\"1\"><span data-contrast=\"none\">When talking to your child, try to remember how it was when you were a child and how you were generally attracted to those people who really listened to you. After all,\u00a0<\/span><b><span data-contrast=\"none\">children think differently from grown-ups<\/span><\/b><span data-contrast=\"none\">. There are a lot of things they don\u2019t know and a lot of things they don\u2019t have the words to talk about.<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{&quot;134233279&quot;:true,&quot;201341983&quot;:0,&quot;335559739&quot;:160,&quot;335559740&quot;:259}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li data-leveltext=\"\uf0b7\" data-font=\"Symbol\" data-listid=\"1\" aria-setsize=\"-1\" data-aria-posinset=\"1\" data-aria-level=\"1\"><span data-contrast=\"none\">Let your child finish talking and then respond. When listening, try not to interrupt or put words in your child\u2019s mouth<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{&quot;134233279&quot;:true,&quot;201341983&quot;:0,&quot;335559739&quot;:160,&quot;335559740&quot;:259}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<li data-leveltext=\"\uf0b7\" data-font=\"Symbol\" data-listid=\"1\" aria-setsize=\"-1\" data-aria-posinset=\"2\" data-aria-level=\"1\"><span data-contrast=\"none\">Watch your child\u2019s facial expression and body language. Listening isn\u2019t just about hearing words, but also trying to understand what\u2019s behind those words.<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{&quot;134233279&quot;:true,&quot;201341983&quot;:0,&quot;335559739&quot;:160,&quot;335559740&quot;:259}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<li data-leveltext=\"\uf0b7\" data-font=\"Symbol\" data-listid=\"1\" aria-setsize=\"-1\" data-aria-posinset=\"3\" data-aria-level=\"1\"><span data-contrast=\"none\">To let your child know you\u2019re listening, and make sure you\u2019ve really understood,\u00a0<\/span><b><span data-contrast=\"none\">repeat back what your child has said<\/span><\/b><span data-contrast=\"none\">\u00a0and make lots of eye contact.<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{&quot;134233279&quot;:true,&quot;201341983&quot;:0,&quot;335559739&quot;:160,&quot;335559740&quot;:259}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<li data-leveltext=\"\uf0b7\" data-font=\"Symbol\" data-listid=\"1\" aria-setsize=\"-1\" data-aria-posinset=\"4\" data-aria-level=\"1\"><span data-contrast=\"none\">Show your interest by saying such things as, \u201cTell me more about &#8230;\u201d, \u201cReally!\u201d and \u201cGo on &#8230;\u201d. Ask children what they feel about the things they\u2019re telling you about.<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{&quot;134233279&quot;:true,&quot;201341983&quot;:0,&quot;335559739&quot;:160,&quot;335559740&quot;:259}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<li data-leveltext=\"\uf0b7\" data-font=\"Symbol\" data-listid=\"1\" aria-setsize=\"-1\" data-aria-posinset=\"5\" data-aria-level=\"1\"><b><span data-contrast=\"none\">Avoid criticism and blame.<\/span><\/b><span data-contrast=\"none\">\u00a0<\/span><span data-contrast=\"none\">Work together to solve problems and conflicts.<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{&quot;134233279&quot;:true,&quot;201341983&quot;:0,&quot;335559739&quot;:160,&quot;335559740&quot;:259}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li data-leveltext=\"\uf0b7\" data-font=\"Symbol\" data-listid=\"1\" aria-setsize=\"-1\" data-aria-posinset=\"1\" data-aria-level=\"1\"><span data-contrast=\"none\">Be honest with each other.<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{&quot;134233279&quot;:true,&quot;201341983&quot;:0,&quot;335559739&quot;:160,&quot;335559740&quot;:259}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><b><span data-contrast=\"none\">Did you know?<\/span><\/b><br \/>\n<b><span data-contrast=\"none\">If you talk and listen to your children from a very young age, you\u2019ll all get into habits that will be very useful once they\u2019re teenagers. A relationship where children feel comfortable talking about what they\u2019ve been doing and with whom, will encourage children to tell you about the details of their life when they\u2019re older.<\/span><\/b><span data-ccp-props=\"{&quot;201341983&quot;:0,&quot;335559739&quot;:160,&quot;335559740&quot;:259}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span data-ccp-props=\"{&quot;201341983&quot;:0,&quot;335559739&quot;:160,&quot;335559740&quot;:259}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b><span data-contrast=\"none\">Bernard Waber captures a parent-child conversation in his book: Ask Me<\/span><\/b><span data-ccp-props=\"{&quot;201341983&quot;:0,&quot;335559739&quot;:160,&quot;335559740&quot;:259}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p aria-level=\"1\"><span data-contrast=\"none\"><img loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone  wp-image-335\" src=\"http:\/\/sd41blogs.ca\/edmonds-strongstart\/files\/2020\/12\/Ask-me.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"141\" height=\"172\" srcset=\"https:\/\/sd41blogs.ca\/edmonds-strongstart\/files\/2020\/12\/Ask-me.jpg 393w, https:\/\/sd41blogs.ca\/edmonds-strongstart\/files\/2020\/12\/Ask-me-246x300.jpg 246w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 141px) 100vw, 141px\" \/><\/span><\/p>\n<p aria-level=\"4\"><span data-contrast=\"none\">\u00a0\u201c<\/span><span data-contrast=\"none\">Ask me what I like,\u201d a little girl asks her father as they take a stroll through the neighborhood on a cool fall day. And\u00a0<\/span><span data-contrast=\"none\">so,<\/span><span data-contrast=\"none\">\u00a0he asks, \u201cWhat do you like?\u201d The child answers, the father sometimes probe for more information, and they continue the dialogue over and over throughout the book. You can feel the child\u2019s energy as she provides list after list of\u00a0<\/span><span data-contrast=\"none\">things,<\/span><span data-contrast=\"none\">\u00a0she likes each time she sees something different. This is a wonderful story that shows the special parent-child bond between a father and his daughter.<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{&quot;201341983&quot;:0,&quot;335559738&quot;:40,&quot;335559739&quot;:0,&quot;335559740&quot;:259}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p aria-level=\"4\"><span data-contrast=\"none\">\u00a0This story captures a precious moment in time every parent is bound to recognize. It reminds us of the innocence of childhood and all the wonders in the world they see, even when on a simple walk.<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{&quot;201341983&quot;:0,&quot;335559738&quot;:40,&quot;335559739&quot;:0,&quot;335559740&quot;:259}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p aria-level=\"4\"><span data-contrast=\"none\">The illustrations are delightful and colorful. A lovely read aloud and bedtime book.<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{&quot;201341983&quot;:0,&quot;335559738&quot;:40,&quot;335559739&quot;:0,&quot;335559740&quot;:259}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p aria-level=\"4\">You can listen to <a href=\"https:\/\/sd41-my.sharepoint.com\/:v:\/g\/personal\/e18109_burnabyschools_ca\/Eb4EDnwtHGpBrpTEZBnkmx8B9S99DFXx3TkYqEZEs6XeVA?e=h7FwAD\">Ask me by Bernard Waber HERE<\/a><\/p>\n<p><span data-ccp-props=\"{&quot;201341983&quot;:0,&quot;335559739&quot;:160,&quot;335559740&quot;:259}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Talking and listening to children does lots of important things:\u00a0 &nbsp; It improves your bond with them\u00a0 Encourages them to listen to you\u00a0 It helps them to form relationships\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 It helps them to build self-esteem.\u00a0 \u00a0 Did you know? Some children need a lot of encouragement and positive feedback to get talking. Others will be [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":10008,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[1],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/sd41blogs.ca\/edmonds-strongstart\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/334"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/sd41blogs.ca\/edmonds-strongstart\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/sd41blogs.ca\/edmonds-strongstart\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sd41blogs.ca\/edmonds-strongstart\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/10008"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sd41blogs.ca\/edmonds-strongstart\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=334"}],"version-history":[{"count":7,"href":"https:\/\/sd41blogs.ca\/edmonds-strongstart\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/334\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":344,"href":"https:\/\/sd41blogs.ca\/edmonds-strongstart\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/334\/revisions\/344"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/sd41blogs.ca\/edmonds-strongstart\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=334"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sd41blogs.ca\/edmonds-strongstart\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=334"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sd41blogs.ca\/edmonds-strongstart\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=334"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}