{"id":7765,"date":"2022-02-20T06:47:09","date_gmt":"2022-02-20T14:47:09","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/sd41blogs.ca\/ignasv\/?p=7765"},"modified":"2022-02-20T07:12:17","modified_gmt":"2022-02-20T15:12:17","slug":"are-you-phubbing-right-now-what-it-is-and-why-science-says-its-bad-for-your-relationships","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/sd41blogs.ca\/ignasv\/2022\/02\/20\/are-you-phubbing-right-now-what-it-is-and-why-science-says-its-bad-for-your-relationships\/","title":{"rendered":"Are you \u2018phubbing\u2019 right now? What it is and why science says it\u2019s bad for your relationships"},"content":{"rendered":"<h3>Happy Family Day! &#8211; Enjoy your day off!<\/h3>\n<h1 data-qa=\"headline\"><iframe loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/www.washingtonpost.com\/video\/c\/embed\/3c06e470-a9e4-11e7-9a98-07140d2eed02\" width=\"480\" height=\"290\" frameborder=\"0\" scrolling=\"no\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/h1>\n<h1 id=\"main-content\" class=\" font--headline gray-darkest pb-sm \" data-qa=\"headline\"><span data-qa=\"headline-text\">Are you \u2018phubbing\u2019 right now? What it is and why science says it\u2019s bad for your relationships<\/span><\/h1>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.dw.com\/en\/are-you-being-phubbed\/av-60830820\">Science Unscripted &#8211; learn more about phubbing&#8217;s negative effect on relationships:<\/a><\/p>\n<h3><img loading=\"lazy\" class=\" wp-image-7770 aligncenter\" src=\"http:\/\/sd41blogs.ca\/ignasv\/files\/2022\/02\/Screen-Shot-2022-02-20-at-6.58.55-AM-300x197.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"445\" height=\"292\" srcset=\"http:\/\/sd41blogs.ca\/ignasv\/files\/2022\/02\/Screen-Shot-2022-02-20-at-6.58.55-AM-300x197.png 300w, http:\/\/sd41blogs.ca\/ignasv\/files\/2022\/02\/Screen-Shot-2022-02-20-at-6.58.55-AM-768x505.png 768w, http:\/\/sd41blogs.ca\/ignasv\/files\/2022\/02\/Screen-Shot-2022-02-20-at-6.58.55-AM-800x526.png 800w, http:\/\/sd41blogs.ca\/ignasv\/files\/2022\/02\/Screen-Shot-2022-02-20-at-6.58.55-AM.png 1024w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 445px) 100vw, 445px\" \/><br \/>\n<a href=\"http:\/\/journals.sagepub.com\/doi\/abs\/10.1177\/0265407512453827\">A set of studies<\/a>\u00a0actually showed that just having a phone out and present during a conversation (say, on the table between you) interferes with your sense of connection to the other person, the feelings of closeness experienced, and the quality of the conversation.\u00a0 Especially during meaningful conversations, you lose the opportunity for true and authentic connection to another person, the core tenet of any friendship or relationship. These findings hold true regardless of people\u2019s age, ethnicity, gender, or mood. We feel more empathy when smartphones are put away.<\/h3>\n<h3><a href=\"https:\/\/www.theatlantic.com\/sexes\/archive\/2013\/01\/theres-no-such-thing-as-everlasting-love-according-to-science\/267199\/\">Research by Barbara Fredrickson<\/a>,\u00a0beautifully described in her book Love 2.0, suggests that intimacy happens in micro-moments: talking over breakfast, the exchange with the UPS guy, the smile of a child. The key is to be present and mindful.\u00a0A<a href=\"http:\/\/www.danielgilbert.com\/KILLINGSWORTH%20&amp;%20GILBERT%20(2010).pdf\"> revealing study<\/a>\u00a0showed that we are happiest when we are present, no matter what we are doing. Can we be present with the person in front of us right now, no matter who it is?<\/h3>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Happy Family Day! &#8211; Enjoy your day off! Are you \u2018phubbing\u2019 right now? What it is and why science says it\u2019s bad for your relationships Science Unscripted &#8211; learn more about phubbing&#8217;s negative effect on relationships: A set of studies\u00a0actually &hellip; <a href=\"http:\/\/sd41blogs.ca\/ignasv\/2022\/02\/20\/are-you-phubbing-right-now-what-it-is-and-why-science-says-its-bad-for-your-relationships\/\">Continue reading <span class=\"meta-nav\">&rarr;<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":519,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[1],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/sd41blogs.ca\/ignasv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7765"}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/sd41blogs.ca\/ignasv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/sd41blogs.ca\/ignasv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/sd41blogs.ca\/ignasv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/519"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/sd41blogs.ca\/ignasv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=7765"}],"version-history":[{"count":7,"href":"http:\/\/sd41blogs.ca\/ignasv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7765\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":7774,"href":"http:\/\/sd41blogs.ca\/ignasv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7765\/revisions\/7774"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/sd41blogs.ca\/ignasv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=7765"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/sd41blogs.ca\/ignasv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=7765"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/sd41blogs.ca\/ignasv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=7765"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}