{"id":319,"date":"2020-12-01T10:30:25","date_gmt":"2020-12-01T18:30:25","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/sd41blogs.ca\/andersons\/?p=319"},"modified":"2020-12-02T08:18:02","modified_gmt":"2020-12-02T16:18:02","slug":"flexible-vs-fixed-thinking","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/sd41blogs.ca\/andersons\/2020\/12\/01\/flexible-vs-fixed-thinking\/","title":{"rendered":"Flexible vs Fixed Thinking"},"content":{"rendered":"

Hello Everyone,<\/p>\n

Change is difficult. It can be difficult because this change, the situation we are about to enter into, might not be going how we expected it to go. We had prepared ourselves for an experience and then that experience changed or didn’t even happen. For example, on the drive to work today I was planning on taking the highway for an early meeting. I thought to myself, that I needed to leave at a particular time to get there on time and I even imagined myself sipping my coffee and having a relaxing drive, arriving to work with lots of time for my meeting. I am sure you can see where this is going. I arrived at the on-ramp and there was a traffic jam. I was immediately flooded with feelings of frustration because how I imagined my morning would go suddenly seemed impossible.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

For children, a change in routine or the expected can be especially difficult. This week I wanted to highlight a skill (Flexible Thinking) to help you and your child when unexpected change comes up.<\/p>\n

What is Flexible Thinking?<\/strong><\/span><\/h4>\n

Flexible thinking\u00a0is the ability to shift thinking or attention in response to a switch in rules, or to new or unexpected situations.<\/p>\n

Why is Flexible Thinking important?<\/span><\/h4>\n

Here is another driving analogy I borrowed from a colleague. Imagine driving without your GPS and you reach a \u201croad closed\u201d sign; you have no idea where you are or where to go next. You might get angry and consider taking the closed road regardless. You might panic about what to do next and call someone for help. Or you might simply sit there flummoxed. These are the feelings a child with a flexible thinking challenge may experience when asked to find another way to solve a problem or move to a new, unfamiliar situation\u2014a combination of confusion, anger at the injustice, and panic. The specific response is very dependent on the child\u2019s personality. It may appear, at first, like a child is being stubborn or difficult when in reality they are desperately struggling to cope with things not going as expected. They are stuck in how things should<\/em> be or how we expected<\/em> them to be. This is often called fixed or stuck thinking.<\/p>\n

If you’re a flexible thinker, you consider a range of different possible consequences of your actions rather than only considering an\u00a0optimistic\u00a0view or only considering a pessimistic view.<\/p>\n

Optimism vs. Pessimism<\/strong><\/p>\n

For example, if you’re thinking about switching from one job to another, you wouldn’t only consider the likely upsides or the likely downsides, you’d consider both.<\/p>\n

If you know you tend to be too optimistic or too pessimistic, you factor this in when you’re thinking about things, as a reminder to yourself to consider the other side of the coin.<\/p>\n

    \n
  1. Avoid using words that indicate only one good option or outcome.\u00a0<\/em>Examples include words such as\u00a0never<\/em>,\u00a0always<\/em>,\u00a0won\u2019t<\/em>, or\u00a0can\u2019t<\/em>. There are certainly instances when it makes sense to use these words, but it\u2019s important to recognize that their regular inclusion in our thought processes may decrease\u00a0the potential for flexible thinking.<\/li>\n
  2. Be careful about placing high value on particular things, people, and situations\u00a0while denying the potential value of others.<\/em>\u00a0Placing certain items, individuals, or outcomes on a pedestal while dismissing or minimizing the value of alternatives runs the risk of leaving you\u00a0very few acceptable options. The feeling that we have no other options when something doesn\u2019t work out can lead to hopelessness.<\/li>\n
  3. Remember that our circumstances are often temporary.<\/em>\u00a0Attaching too much significance to specific events and thinking of outcomes as permanent can make us feel trapped. It can decrease our ability to be\u00a0resilient because we either believe the best of life is behind us\u00a0or we feel powerless to find ways to improve our situation. Instead, we should acknowledge our feelings\u00a0while reminding ourselves that situations will change, and we can work to change them<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    Here Are 5 Ways To Teach, Practice and Grow Flexible Thinking<\/span><\/strong><\/h4>\n

    1.\u00a0Be A Flexible Role Model<\/strong>: In order to teach flexible thinking, you need to live flexible thinking.\u00a0 In other words, you need to demonstrate flexible thinking in front of your students.
    \nI\u2019m sure you do a lot of flexible thinking during the day, the key is to not keep it a secret!\u00a0 Let the kids know and highlight these situations when they come up.<\/p>\n

    For example, if you are trying to present a lesson on the white board and you want a red marker, but only have black, be flexible and use the black\u2026.but TELL the kids what you are doing.\u00a0 This is very simple but is a great and very easy opportunity to model flexible thinking.<\/p>\n

    2.\u00a0Create Opportunities<\/strong>: Provide lots of opportunities to practice being flexible.\u00a0 If you set your home or classroom up so that there is no room for change, it will be difficult for children to practice flexible thinking.<\/p>\n

    3.\u00a0Reward Flexible Thinking<\/strong>: When you see it, reward it! A quick compliment can go a long way.\u00a0 You can also highlight the situation so that other children can learn from the situation.<\/p>\n

    4.\u00a0Offer Alternatives Frequently:<\/strong> Offer alternative to how to do things, say things, or use things as often as possible.\u00a0 This will help children to see how to be flexible and to see the value in thinking flexibly.<\/p>\n

    5.\u00a0Explicit Teaching<\/strong>: Play games and engage in activities that teach flexible thinking. It\u2019s fun!<\/p>\n

    Here are some flexible thinking resources that I wanted to highlight this week:<\/p>\n

    \"\" \"\" \"\" \"\"<\/p>\n

     <\/p>\n

     <\/p>\n

     <\/p>\n

     <\/p>\n

     <\/p>\n

     <\/p>\n

     <\/p>\n

     <\/p>\n

     <\/p>\n

     <\/p>\n

     <\/p>\n

     <\/p>\n

     <\/p>\n

     <\/p>\n

     <\/p>\n

     <\/p>\n

     <\/p>\n

     <\/p>\n